Moving House - No 'Help' Available

We all know that moving house can be the most stressful thing we will ever do in our lifetimes, but what makes it all even more stressful, is that fact that there is NO 'help' or support for Disabled People or the Elderly re-locating for one reason or another.

Although I have searched long and hard for 'Help Services' in the place I live and the one I am moving to, there appears to be NO help at all available.

I have rung the local council's 'Adult Services' both here, ( where I am) and the place I am moving to, they tell me they cannot help me, which I find amazing, seeing as helping the Elderly and Disabled is what they are SUPPOSED to be doing!

I will be moving, (very soon,) from South Somerset to the Forest of Dean and have already checked out most of the supposed 'help numbers', but so far, have no help at all!

I cannot lift or carry and although it looks like I will have to pay a removal company a heck of a lot of money to pack for me and move my home, when I get to the Forest of Dean, I still need some help to set up home. I am 60+ and on High Mobility.

If anyone has any suggestion or organization they know CAN help, I need to hear.

Please leave a comment if you have time, just a little bit of encouragement might help right now.

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Permalink Reply by Christine on July 24, 2013 at 14:06

I express my concerns and am told by you that I sound frustrated, angry and disappointed and that I should NOT show it.

I will not lie and pretend I am happy about it all.

My 'Public Persona' is NOT the same as the one here that details my problems, something I don't usually do and didn't expect to be criticized for as I was asked to do that.

You sound like you have a lot of help and support and I don't begrudge you that, but you also sound like you are 'speaking down to me from a great height' and like you think you know it all.

You are lucky that people have helped you and that you have managed to get it all 'sorted'. But I don't think that gives you the right to criticize me or anyone else for not being able to and I don't think you being helpful by doing that.

I have to pay for private unsuitable accommodation, but I am moving into a Bungalow that I will own a part share of. ( a necessary move.)

I have already stated that have have hunted high and low for some kind of support, but found none, but you keep telling me I should do that. I also told you I didn't now anyone here and had no support from neighbors, but you keep telling me to do that too.

You have NOT really given any helpful advice or support, most of your posts seem to criticize and make self opinionated judgments. Read them....

Why don't you go and do something completely different.

Permalink Reply by Linda Jane McLean on July 25, 2013 at 11:48

Christine,

I am so sorry that I gave that impression. Nothing could be further from the truth.

I don't have everything sorted. I have NOBODY to help me, and I am going through one of the most difficult periods of my life........

I merely KNOW that the system is not capable of responding.

That being the case, we must fend for ourselves.

I had no intention of being unhelpful, and I wish you all the best. One day, someone will understand that when it comes to house moving, there is no equality. None whatsoever.

I'm now off to do something completely different, as you have advised. If what I have learnt is no use to you, I will take it elsewhere.

Hoping it all turns out okay for you, It is VERY IMPORTANT how you speak to people.

Linda

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Permalink Reply by Christine on August 17, 2013 at 13:38

I have to agree with you....

It is VERY IMPORTANT how you speak to people.

Christine.

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Permalink Reply by Linda Jane McLean on August 18, 2013 at 10:23

Christine,

Isn't agreement just wonderful? It's the long, uphill fight, with no comprehension or support, that is draining.

Keep going.

Linda

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Permalink Reply by Ailsa June MacLean on November 15, 2013 at 14:24

Hi Christine,

I'm really sorry to hear about your plight and hope that you got help in the end.

I moved from a second floor apartment to a wheelchair accessible apartment a year and a half ago. As a wheelchair user I was stuck inside as there were 40 steps to freedom and the outside world in my old apartment. After Blackwood housing offered me a wheelchair accessible apartment I didn't know how my daughter and I would manage until some of the students at Strathclyde Uni stepped in and helped. My daughter has been studying psychology for the past few years and as soon as her class mates heard I was moving, they were falling over each other to offer their help. In just 4 hours they had moved all my belongings from one apartment to the other. They even unpacked for me and set up all the furniture too. So what did this cost me? A round of drinks and as much pizza as they could eat! I was very lucky and in the absence of the students I would not have been able to move and would have remained a prisoner in a second floor apartment. Perhaps it's a case of not what you know but who you know to get any help.